The 6th and final stage of the change cycle is integration where thoughts are focused, feelings are hopeful and behavior is generous. This stage is energizing and creative. This is an optimal time to embrace change in other areas of our life. Having an awareness that change is always around us, nothing is permanent and the less attached we are, the less suffering we experience. This doesn’t mean we lose interest in our lives, in fact, it is the exact opposite. We stop taking our lives for granted and appreciate what we have, while we have it.
Practice seeing the glass as already broken. From the Buddhist teaching on impermanence – “You see this goblet?” asks Achaan Chaa, the Thai meditation master. “For me this glass is already broken. I enjoy it; I drink out of it. It holds my water admirably, sometimes even reflecting the sun in beautiful patterns. If I should tap it, it has a lovely ring to it. But when I put this glass on the shelf and the wind knocks it over or my elbow brushes it off the table and it falls to the ground and shatters, I say, ‘Of course.’ When I understand that the glass is already broken, every moment with it is precious.”